A Moment That Changed Everything
It was the 2nd day of the year 2019.
I was in Amsterdam, The Netherlands, working and building what I thought was a stable life.
For the past six months, my wife had been battling blood cancer. The last 15 days had been especially critical — she was on life support.
That day, the doctors called me in for an urgent meeting.
I still remember the weight of that moment.
They said,
“We are very concerned about your wife’s condition. We are running out of options. We are afraid she may not get through this.”
For the first time, I truly felt what it meant to lose her.
Not just as my partner, but as the mother of our 2-year-old daughter.
A future without her suddenly appeared in front of me — and it felt unreal, like something my mind refused to accept.
The Hardest Decision of My Life
I went home to gather my things so I could stay at the hospital. On my way back, I received another call.
They asked me to come immediately.
When I reached, the doctor spoke gently, but the words were heavy.
“Her organs are starting to shut down. She may not have much time left. Continuing treatment will only increase her suffering. You may have to consider letting her go.”
In that moment, I was not thinking about myself.
I was only thinking about her pain.
I made the hardest decision of my life.
I held her hand as the life support was withdrawn.
And just before midnight… I witnessed her last breath.
Walking Through Grief Alone
What followed was a journey I was completely unprepared for.
Grief came in waves — confusion, numbness, anger, guilt, emptiness.
There were days I could function, and days I could barely understand what I was feeling.
What made it harder was this —
I could not find a space where my grief was truly understood.
Friends and family cared, but they did not always know how to support.
And I could not find a grief coach or structured support that could guide me through this unfamiliar terrain.
So, I walked through it on my own.
A Realisation That Changed My Path
Slowly, through experience, reflection, and inner work, I began to understand something deeply important:
Grief needs to be witnessed.
Not fixed. Not rushed. Not silenced.
Just witnessed — with patience, compassion, and presence.
That understanding changed everything for me.
From Personal Loss to Purpose
Over time, my journey led me to study grief more deeply.
I became a Certified Grief Educator under David Kessler, and I began integrating emotional healing with spiritual understanding, especially through Advaita Vedanta.
But more than any certification, it was my lived experience that shaped my work.
Why Heal Together Circle Exists
Heal Together Circle was born from this journey.
A space I wish I had… when I needed it the most.
A space where no one has to feel alone in their grief.
A space where your pain is acknowledged, your emotions are respected, and your journey is honoured.
Walking This Path With You
I know I cannot take away your pain.
But I hope to walk alongside you…
so that over time, you can carry your loss with a little more ease,
and remember your loved one with more love than pain.
